Having a more secure attachment style in relationships bring so many good things.

It allows you to feel good about yourself and others, create stable, emotionally safe

relationships, and it also allows you to feel emotionally closer to people, but also emotionally independent

in the best way.

So how can you develop a more secure attachment style as an adult?

That's what we're talking about on today's show. Setting the mood for us today is the band Nation of Language with a song Walk in Your Light.

I chose this one for us today because it describes this very intense bond, but also conveys the tranquility,

the stability, I think, that comes from and with a secure attachment style.

So symbolically appropriate and also just a gorgeous song.

You learn more about Nation of Language and check out their tour dates on their

band camp page. And I really wanted to discuss this topic because over the last few years,

I've been just so pleased to see more in the air about the subject of attachment. The concept

of attachment styles and relationships.

It's not like getting the recognition and the discussion that it deserves because our attachment

styles really have a big impact on the outcomes, but also on the quality of our relationships

with other people.

And what I've seen is that there's quite a bit now of discussion

related to understanding attachment differences. You know, am I avoided to my anxious, take the

quiz, right? Which is all positive. But I haven't seen a lot of information about how to move from one end or the other of that

attachment spectrum towards the center, which is really the goal for all of us is cultivating

a more secure attachment style.

And it's important to do this because what we know is that people who have more fundamentally secure attachment styles or who have done the work to develop these abilities over the years tend to have not just more satisfying relationships, but easier ones.

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