How To Deal With In-Laws
Love Over Addiction
Michelle Anderson
4.8 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 26 July 2020
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Dealing with in-laws and extended family can be tricky when your partner suffers from addiction. Can you relate?
Maybe there have been times when they've blamed you for their child's addiction. Or you've wondered how much you should share with them regarding your loved one's addiction. But here's the thing: It's not your job to convince their family (or yours) of anything.
In this week's episode, we talk about the role of in-laws, extended family, and 4 tips on how to deal with them. I also share my own experience dealing with my mother-in-law's denial.
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to the Love Over Addiction Podcast. Hey, so here's the deal you love someone suffering from addiction. |
| 0:39.8 | So here's the deal. You love someone suffering from addiction and chances are that person that you love has a family and that family are your in-laws and I hear it over and over again about how our in-laws can be enablers. So today we are going to talk about the role of |
| 0:49.4 | in-laws, extended family, and how to handle them. |
| 0:55.0 | So if you're like me, many, many years ago when I was in love with someone suffering from addiction, |
| 1:01.0 | I remember I was dating my future husband and he was at the time living with his dad, which probably looking back on that should have been a warning sign. |
| 1:20.0 | But I was young and he was working for his dad and it just moved so I thought well okay I guess that makes sense |
| 1:32.0 | And when we became more serious and started talking about moving in together, his parents |
| 1:39.2 | were extremely excited about that. |
| 1:43.0 | And I thought, oh, well, it's just because they loved me so much, |
| 1:48.0 | because I'm such a great girlfriend and would be so good for him. |
| 1:54.0 | But now I can see, oh, they were excited |
| 1:59.0 | that somebody else would be taking care of their son and possibly helping him kind of get his life |
| 2:09.0 | together other and so they could have less of the burden. |
| 2:15.0 | Now I loved my in-laws very, very much. |
| 2:19.0 | I got along with them great. |
| 2:20.0 | I had a good relationship with them. |
| 2:22.0 | But I didn't see clearly the family dynamics because I had never, |
| 2:28.3 | ever been involved with anyone that had a substance abuse problem. |
| 2:33.0 | So I didn't know what I didn't know. |
| 2:37.0 | And then he moved in with me and I took complete ownership and responsibility of trying to get his life together because he was, you know, going, had changed many jobs and was educated but definitely needed more direction, |
| 2:58.6 | didn't have a clear calling for his life, had so much potential potential but not a lot of discipline, not a ton of drive. |
| 3:09.2 | And so when he moved in, I was like, okay, I'm on this. I can do this. I'm young and ambitious and driven and I have a great career. I can do for you what I did for myself. And of course we all know the moral to that |
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