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Tell me what brings you, brings you on. What's your question? My question has to deal with

balancing unmet childhood needs and and balancing relationships moving forward after having going

through I guess traumatic experiences as a child. Okay. So how how do you see those traumatic experiences

playing out in your current relationship story? Well, for me, currently,

I grew up in a broken home, I guess you could say, where my parents got divorced when I was younger.

And then my dad got remarried a couple years later and he, I guess I shouldn't say he had a new

family, but he had more kids.

Okay.

And so I felt very lost in that dynamic as a teenager.

And I think my siblings did too.

I have a brother and a sister who were in the previous marriage. And I think my siblings did too. I have a brother and a sister who were in the previous

marriage. And there's just, there's still a lot of, there's a lot of resentment from my mom

towards my dad and my dad towards my mom and my sister towards my dad and my brother towards my dad

and sometimes my stepmother towards them for having resentment towards my dad. It's just this very

and it's been 20 years. Wow. All this has happened. I mean, since the divorce happened. And now I'm at a point where

I'm married. I have children. We live in a different state than where I grew up, but we go to visit.

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