Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years. His passion is to help you

strengthen your most intimate relationship. We get a lot of questions from people who want to know

how to handle being unequally yoked. So what does that phrase mean and what can a spouse do in this situation?

So Dr. Kim, I'm going to start by asking, will you explain what we mean when we say unequally yoked?

Yeah, because I think it's kind of a foreign term. You know, I think in the Bible, I mean,

what used to be, it was like two oxen, and then they're supposed to

pull equally, and if one's not doing the yard, it doesn't work. And so I think as a Christian,

it's usually one of the Christians married to a non-Christian. It can be, you know, they have different

beliefs, values, priorities, those kind of things. But for the Christian person is wanting to live a life in a marriage like God wants them to,

and the other person doesn't value that in the same way.

And so there's frustration because you're going to equally yoked.

One wants to go this way, another either wants to stay stuck, go backwards, or go a different way.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah, that sounds really frustrating.

Any marriage, like you don't really need any more factors to make it harder because marriage is already hard. We know. Absolutely. Absolutely. And I think, too, you know, I've talked to some

people that have been in that situation over the years, and most of them were women.

And most of them said they just felt like the person would change, the husband would change in marriage.

And in those cases, it hadn't happened.

Now, that doesn't mean it can't, but I don't think you want to, if you've got your list of what you want in a spouse,

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