How To Deal With a Difficult Parent

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🗓️ 25 July 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Every year J. and her parents fly thousands of miles, meeting in the middle for their family vacation. A vacation that often leads to shouting and tears. J. and her father have a rocky relationship. Little disagreements often lead to her dad yelling and dredging up the past. It would be easy, in theory, to cut off the relationship before it got even more toxic. But J. wants to make it work. The question is, how? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Nibarna Kannathasan, a psychotherapist who has helped people navigate tricky intergenerational conflict, especially when factoring migration and differing cultural expectations. She helps J. parse what she really wants from her father and figure out a way to start down that road while protecting herself along the way. If you liked this episode, check out: How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent. Do you have a question we can help you solve? Send us a note at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen. Podcast production by Derek John, Rosemary Belson, Kevin Bendis, and Jabari Butler. If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on How To!. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus to help support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:47.7	Dear how-to, today I'm writing to you guys because quite frankly I'm lost.
1:53.2	I just came back from a family holiday and it was easily the most stressful week of my year so far.
1:59.2	I have an emotional abusive that and it makes spending time with him very difficult. The problem
2:04.5	here is that he's still my dad and I would like to have a relationship with him.
2:10.4	Welcome to How-To. I'm Carvo Wallace. Parent child relationships are so wildly complicated.
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