How to De-Escalate a Shouting Match

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast

Civility Media

Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education

5 • 5.8K Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

You ever been in a conversation that wasn’t really a conversation—more like words flying at your face at full volume? Yeah, I’ve been there too. In today’s episode, I’m giving you three super practical ways to hold your ground and keep your cool when someone else is losing theirs. This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show! Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter. Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube Follow me on Instagram Follow me on TikTokFollow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:29.8	How do you stay calm when they're not? When somebody is yelling at you, they're mad at you, they're
0:36.9	angry, they're shouting,
0:38.7	what do you do in that moment? In today's episode, I am going to teach you. I'm going to teach
0:44.6	you number one, how to get them to lower their volume two. We're going to add space into the
0:50.2	conversation. We're going to talk how to do that to regulate our emotions and theirs.
0:54.5	And three, I'm going to give you phrases that you can use that is going to help calm and
0:59.3	smooth out the situation for a much more productive conversation. You ready?
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1:27.0	it's going to make you a better communicator.
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