Hi everybody. Thanks again for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today I want to talk about

why it's so important to have standards, how you create standards in the first place,

and also how to communicate those standards to the guy that you're dating. So let's talk about the

four reasons why it's so important to set standards. The first reason is it creates a foundation

of respect between the two of you, which is essential to

attraction. So if you listen to a prior episode about how to go from dating to exclusive, one of

the pieces of attraction is respect. And it's fundamental in that if it's not there, attraction doesn't happen.

This is actually true for all types of relationships.

We have a really hard time liking people that we don't first and foremost respect.

I can think of examples of this from my past in school. I remember my favorite teachers,

even though I might complain about them, it was actually always the teachers that were the strictest.

And I remember I had another teacher who would literally let us get away with a murder during class.

And I think he was doing that because he

wanted the kids to like him. But of course, that energy of wanting somebody to like you and

compromising on your own values and boundaries and standards in order to get that approval from

them is what makes people not like you. So let's bring this back to dating. Every time that

he does something that is not okay with you, like, for example, taking a joke too far or liking his ex's

Instagram pictures, and you don't speak up, he loses some of that respect for you that is essential to his attraction for you.

So when he does something that is unkind and you don't speak up, he subconsciously registers

that that is the behavior that you accept and believe that you're worthy of.

The second reason it's so important to get comfortable

communicating your standards is because it frees you from harboring anger or resentment

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