the ability to communicate with each other, the ability to trust each other and build trust.

All of us know how to do this.

It's literally an instinct that we're born with because of evolution.

You know this. You know this on an intuitive level and the more you listen to your intuition,

the more you let go and trust yourself in a conversation, the better that conversation is going to go and the more you're going to connect.

So have you ever just marvel that someone who can seemingly walk into any room and instantly connect with every person there.

What special gift do they have that makes communications seem effortless for them but so difficult

for others?

They'd be including you.

I know that's been me struggling at times. My

guest today, Charles Doohig, reveals that these super-communicators as he

describes him, they don't possess any magical abilities. In fact, unlocking the secret language of

connection is a learnable skill as Charles lays out in his new book super communicators

how to unlock the secret language of connection. Charles is a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist and the author of

New York Times Best Sellers The Power of Habit and Smarter Faster Better. His books

have been translated into over 40 languages and he explains that beneath every conversation.

There are actually three different types happening at once, the practical, the emotional, and the

social.

And the key is identifying which type of conversation is taking place, and then matching that same

wavelength. When we get stuck at cross purposes, not truly hearing each other, it's because we've lost

sync. And by learning simple but powerful

techniques to tune into the right frequency we can transform even difficult

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