How to Coach Men Effectively - Jayson Gaddis - 538
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 5 August 2025
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
How should you coach men effectively? Jayson unpacks the impact of male social conditioning and what it means for therapy and coaching. What’s different about working with men in couples therapy? How can coaches help men break out of rigid gender roles without making them feel inferior?
Jayson also shares tips for navigating defensiveness and creating safety while challenging growth. Don’t miss this direct and practical episode on supporting men more skillfully.
Timestamps:
- 1:48 - Male social conditioning
- 7:30 - Men in couples therapy
- 10:37 - What to do differently when coaching men
- 21:42 - Escaping the gender straightjacket
- 26:05 - When you sense a man getting defensive
- 26:37 - Don’t make men feel inferior
Links:
- The Relationship School
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hey there, Jason Gattis here. What's up? Welcome back to another episode of the Relationship |
| 0:07.6 | Coaching School podcast. Let's get into it. You know, I've been working with men, you |
| 0:15.1 | could say, for over 30 years. And we're going to talk about men today. Men specifically in therapy and coaching. |
| 0:25.0 | And why it's so critical that you as a man, if you're listening, get your ass into some |
| 0:34.8 | coaching or therapy. And why you, the coach or therapist, needs to do a few |
| 0:41.1 | things differently when working with men, all right? Did you know that roughly 90% of the |
| 0:48.3 | therapists in the United States are women? Nothing wrong with that. It just means that there's going to be a little bit of a challenge |
| 0:59.8 | potentially. I wish there wasn't, but let's be honest, because men and women have challenges |
| 1:06.4 | with each other, it would make sense that men feel cautious or uncertain about going to therapy, |
| 1:19.7 | especially if the therapist is a woman. For some men, that's going to feel safer. For some men, |
| 1:25.8 | it's going to feel safer. For some men, it's going to feel less safe. |
| 1:31.0 | So I'm doing this podcast because I think a lot of people, coaches and therapists, don't know how to deal with men when they come into therapy or coaching. |
| 1:40.0 | And I'm going to make the distinction between couples, coaching, or therapy, and individual, |
| 1:49.6 | because that's a really different situation. |
| 1:54.3 | So, first of all, for all you men out there listening who are already in coaching or therapy, |
| 2:00.3 | whether it's couples couples work or individual work |
| 2:01.9 | or a men's group, I just want to applaud you, celebrate you, high five you, because you are |
| 2:07.7 | ahead of most men in the world. And unfortunately, men are, they have so much, we men have so much social conditioning that makes it hard for us |
| 2:21.3 | to get help. So if you're sitting there listening going, yeah, why are men so hard and why don't |
| 2:28.5 | they come to therapy and why are they so resistant when they do come to therapy? Or if you're |
| 2:33.3 | thinking that, you're forgetting about how we're |
| 2:36.0 | raised so let's quickly review how boys are raised they're still by and large raised and when i talk |
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