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Hey everybody, it's Mary El Segara. Raise your hand if you think it's Mary El Segara.

Raise your hand if you think it's a moral failure

to leave dirty dishes sitting in your sink for a day.

It's kind of a funny question, right?

I don't know anybody that would say yes, but if you ask someone, do you

feel shame if you leave your dishes in the sink for too long? A lot of people say yes.

I mean, it's true. Sometimes it feels like the dishes are silently judging me from across the room.

Same goes for that dusty book shelf and the unfolded laundry that's constantly giving me the side eye. That was Casey Davis by the way. She's a therapist and she wrote a book called How to Keep House While Drowning, a gentle approach to cleaning and organizing. She says the problem is that when we think of chores as a moral

obligation, but we aren't doing them, it's easy to spiral. I'm just not responsible, I'm just not

mature, I'm just not good enough. I'm just not

good enough. I just don't work hard enough. I'm just lazy.

When you believe that that's the issue, the only solution to that is try harder, be better.

But I have found just clinically as a therapist

and speaking to other therapist friends,

...