How to Build a Relationship That Actually Lasts Forever

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 13 May 2025

⏱️ 70 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/

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0:00.0	It's really important to stress that the topics, of course, are really important in terms of what
0:07.9	couples fight about. Those are the most common things couples fight about. However, the way they
0:13.4	fight is what predicts divorce, the way they fight. So they could be talking about who's going to
0:20.6	hold on to the remote for the TV.
0:23.3	And that can lead to a divorce because of the horrible ways that they're fighting.
0:33.6	Real question. Are you and your partner truly compatible or are you just navigating the same
0:39.7	storm in different boats? The idea of compatibility gets tossed around all the time, but what
0:46.0	does it actually mean in a lasting relationship? Does it come down to shared hobbies, chemistry,
0:51.1	star signs, or is there something deeper, more science-backed, and actually more useful?
0:57.0	Well, in today's episode, I'm joined by two absolute legends in the relationship world.
1:01.0	Doctors John and Julie Gottman, founders of the Gottman Institute and partners in love and research for over 30 years.
1:08.0	They spent decades studying the actual science of what makes relationships succeed
1:13.3	or fail. And today they're here to break down why the myth of compatibility might be messing
1:20.0	with your love life. The four behaviors that are most likely to destroy a relationship,
1:25.1	what's really going on with pheromones, attraction, and long-term
1:28.4	connection, and how to use their book eight dates to have the kind of conversations that
1:33.5	build real intimacy, not just surface level, how was your day talk?
1:38.3	Before we dive in, let's set an intention together.
1:41.0	What do you want to take away from this episode?
1:43.1	Better communication, stronger connection, maybe just some reassurance that your relationship
1:48.4	is actually doing better than you think?
1:50.7	My intention to introduce you to the revolutionary research back work of the Gottman's
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