The Hey, hey what's up and welcome back to another episode of this mini series I'm doing

through the spring where you can ask me anything it's an ask Kalin series an

advice listener advice series I didn't really name this series, but the concept is that you were able to send in, or

listeners were able to send in asking for advice on any topic, and I'm going in chronological order. Today is episode 3 they're going

out bi-weekly and the listener advice says this how do I start believing in

myself especially after aiming low for so long?

Oh, that's a good one. You know, this question is interesting for me. It's interesting the

divine timing of things because I've recently struggled with this a lot too of

believing in myself after aiming low and feeling like I would let myself down in so many ways.

And first and foremost, I think that it's worth noting because I can, the first thought that just popped

into my mind even when I said that is that I'm aware that I can be hard on myself and so I would ask you first and

foremost if you are someone that tends to be hard on yourself. The first ingredient, the most important ingredient

before I give any other piece of advice is a state of grace and I know that that can be really hard

It's easy to give grace to other people. It can be a lot harder to give grace to ourselves

especially

When it comes to believing in yourself and knowing that you've been aiming low, there's probably a pretty good reason for it.

And that's not to say that you have to sit and fester in those reasons it's not to say that

I don't know it's not to say that that's an excuse for aiming low by any means. It's just really, really valid, important

information. Everything we experience and go through is very important information and if we can

depersonalize it just a little bit make it feel like it's not so

it's not so serious it's not so identifying about who we are then we can look at what we're experiencing and what we're going through

with a sense of curiosity and use that information to launch ourselves in the direction we want to go.

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