How to Become the Person You’ve Always Wanted to Be

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 10.6K Ratings

🗓️ 4 August 2025

⏱️ 83 minutes

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Summary

Today, you’ll learn how to stop playing small and step into the bigger life that’s waiting for you. You’ll learn how to stop shrinking, stop explaining, and start claiming what you want without guilt, apology, or second-guessing. Whether you’re coming out of a breakup, burnout, or just a version of life that no longer fits, this conversation will show you how to reinvent yourself from the inside out. You’ll hear what happens when you finally give yourself permission to live life the way you really want. Because let’s be honest: How many times have you talked yourself out of what you want… before you even tried to go get it? That job. That conversation. That version of yourself you know you’re capable of being. You feel the pull. But then comes the doubt. And you quietly decide, “That’s not for me.” This episode is here to challenge that. And change it. Mel sits down with Chelsea Handler, one of the most successful comedians of all time, a six-time #1 New York Times bestselling author, and someone who’s spent decades breaking rules, saying exactly what she thinks, and reinventing herself in public. But this is not the Chelsea you think you know. This conversation is about the version of Chelsea you haven’t seen – the woman who’s done the inner work, faced down regret, and come out the other side with more clarity, peace, and power than ever before. You’ll laugh. You might cry. And you will absolutely see yourself in this. If you’ve ever walked through life thinking “that would be nice… but not for me,” that ends today. This is the permission slip you’ve been waiting for. You’ll learn: -How to let go of the expectations, labels, and roles that aren’t yours anymore -What it means to claim what you want – and actually go get it -The mindset shift that makes true confidence possible -How to stop managing everyone else’s comfort and start living for you -What it really takes to stop caring what people think -How to pick yourself back up after regret, loss, or failure This conversation will challenge you. It will surprise you. And it will make you think differently about what you’re actually capable of. You have a reservoir of strength that you don’t even know about, and today you’re going to learn how to tap into it. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next: How to Stop Caring What People Think of You Connect with Mel: Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Sign up for Mel’s personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
0:08.6	Have you ever gotten on a plane?
0:10.6	And as you're passing through first class, you kind of look around and think, well, this would be nice.
0:16.7	But then you just shrug your shoulders and you walk all the way to the back of the plane and you're
0:22.3	excuse me, I'm right there in the middle seat. Thank you. Can you imagine a world where instead of
0:27.9	looking around and saying that would be nice and then you dismiss your chance of getting it,
0:33.2	you actually stop and look around and say, you know what, I think this thing up here, this is for me.
0:37.4	I'd like to be up here. These are my people. And look, you may not want to fly first class, but
0:42.7	there are things that you do want, and I want you to consider that the first step to achieving
0:48.3	the things that you want is having the confidence to claim what you want. Today's conversation is
0:53.8	the permission you need to go after what you want. Today's conversation is the permission you need to go after
0:56.2	what you want in life, whether that is flying first class or being unapologetically ambitious,
1:02.9	or standing up for yourself, or speaking your mind, or making the changes you want to make.
1:07.8	The person you're about to meet is going to tell you if you have ever told yourself,
1:12.0	well, I can't make that habit. You're wrong. The one and only Chelsea Handler is here.
1:17.6	Now, Chelsea's one of the most successful comedians of all time. She's the author of six
1:22.0	consecutive number one New York Times bestsellers. I just read her latest bestselling book,
1:26.8	and I'm going to admit something to you.
1:28.4	I had Chelsea Handler all wrong. I had no idea who she actually is at her core. I've learned a lot
1:37.4	from her. I am inspired by her, and you're about to hear the hilarious twists and turns, and the lessons that she has learned the hard way.
1:47.1	These are lessons that you and I can use about confidence, being yourself, getting rid of anger,
1:52.8	picking yourself up when you blow it, finding inspiration in the darkest moments and the power
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