How to Be Unapologetically You

The Intentional Advantage

Tanya Dalton

Productivity, 790708, Tanyadalton, Inkwellpress, Management, Education, Self-improvement, Business

4.6 • 605 Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2020

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

People-pleasing at the expense of yourself can be so destructive. As women, a lot of us fall victim to the collective issues of chronically apologizing, and this affects us in all areas of our lives. It’s time we start taking note from powerful women in the world who are doing their thing, on their own terms, without apologizing for it. In this episode, I’m going to talk about honing in on the confidence to be boldly and unapologetically you. I discuss being more direct, using the five-second rule to help yourself overcome chronic apologies, and starting to embrace your true self.

What’s In This Episode:

How to be more direct

Moving on from your people-pleasing ways

How to do what you want unapologetically

Learning to be confidently and boldly you

Giving yourself space to really think before you speak by employing the 5-second rule

Transcript

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0:00.0	This is Productivity Paradox with Tanya Dalton, a podcast focused on using productivity not just to do more, but to achieve what's truly important to you. And this season is all about you, U2.0. To learn more about yourself, take Tanya's free quiz and discover your own productivity style at tanya
0:21.6	Dalton.com. And now get ready. Here's your host, Tanya Dalton. Hello, hello everyone. Welcome to
0:30.1	Productivity Paradox. I'm your host, Tanya Dalton, and this is episode 163, how to be unapologetically you.
0:40.2	So I want you to think about something.
0:42.6	How many times do you think you've apologized today or this week?
0:48.3	Now keep in mind, I'm not talking about a legitimate apology where you've said, you know,
0:53.4	I'm sorry to someone for insulting
0:56.0	them or because you've done something genuinely wrong. Rather, I'm talking about the kind of
1:01.3	apology where you're simply saying sorry for essentially no reason at all. Now, I know, it sounds
1:09.1	silly, right? I mean, who would apologize for no reason? But as silly
1:14.3	as it seems, believe it or not, this is something that we, especially as women, do frequently,
1:21.6	often without even realizing it. We apologize for the times that we're running late to work, or we need to reschedule a meeting
1:29.9	because we, you know, got caught in traffic or we had a sick kid at home. We throw in and I'm sorry
1:37.0	into our everyday conversation when we disagree with a colleague or our boss about a new initiative
1:43.4	or a project or something else that
1:45.7	we have a different opinion about. I mean, we even offer up an apology for the way that we feel.
1:52.4	I'm sorry, I'm a little sad today. Or, I'm sorry, I just can't stop smiling. I'm just so excited.
1:59.7	Right? My guess? If you stop and count,
2:03.2	there's a lot more sorries happening in your life and, to be honest, in mine, than are really
2:09.6	necessary. Now, I'm not generalizing here. In fact, we women apologize so much that it sparked
2:17.2	researchers at the University of Waterloo in Canada to dig into this phenomenon that women by nature apologize more than their male counterparts.
2:27.5	So they gathered together a group of men and women, and they asked them to keep daily logs to keep track of the things they did throughout
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