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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

How to be Strong Enough to Make the Really Big Changes

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.73.8K Ratings

🗓️ 3 October 2023

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Our young kids are adaptable, so it's always possible for us to change routines, rules, and behavior patterns that we decide are no longer beneficial for us or them. Problem is, our kids are bound to object— loudly, vociferously, perhaps relentlessly—when these changes aren't their idea (which they seldom are). Our new plan may be met with whining, crying, screaming, even tantrums. And since we've played a central role in allowing our family's habits to take root, it’s natural to feel uncertain or even guilty for introducing new boundaries. As an insightful parent concerned about her children's excessive TV use writes: “Though I fully believe that changing our strategies and habits will improve our lives and relationships, taking these steps is so hard that I find myself just doing the usual thing and beating myself up about it instead of doing anything different.” Another parent writes that she feels trapped by her toddler's refusal to play without her presence, but she's afraid to make changes because she's uncomfortable with upsetting him: “I feel I’m stumbling and, in the process, feel myself losing the joy of parenting.” Janet offers ideas for helping parents find the perspective and strength they need to make changes for the better.

Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.

Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, everyone, before we begin, I just want to remind you to please check out my new

0:07.6

No Bad Kids Master course.

0:09.6

You can find out all about it at nobadkidscourse.com Hi, this is Janet Lansbury.

0:20.1

Welcome to Unruffled.

0:21.8

Today I have some questions from parents.

0:25.5

I love this first one's subject line because it really describes, but this is going to be

0:30.1

about how to be strong enough to make the really big changes.

0:36.3

So what can we do as parents to be able to bolster ourselves to make changes with our

0:43.3

children that we know that they're going to object to strongly?

0:49.6

This can be anything from certain habits that we've gotten into with them.

0:53.5

We want to change, maybe less TV, more independent play, that's what two of these are about.

1:00.4

But it's really about anything, any kind of change that our family has to make that our

1:05.6

children are not going to be on board with of their own volition.

1:10.9

How can we do this?

1:12.8

So that's what I'm going to be talking about and I really hope what I have to say is helpful.

1:21.1

Okay, here's the first email I'd like to address.

1:25.1

And this is the one with the subject line, how to be strong enough to make the really big

1:29.3

changes.

1:30.3

Hi Janet, I've been listening to your podcast on and off for a few years and I really

1:35.4

like a lot of your ideas, although I don't know how successful I've been at implementing

1:39.6

them with my kids now three and five.

1:43.1

One noticeable success is just the really basic feelings acknowledgement.

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