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Hey friends, it's Rosie here.

Welcome to Radio Headspace and to Thursday.

In the days following the fires, I kept hearing phrases like,

We'll come back stronger than ever.

And I get it.

Hope is powerful.

But what about the people who are still sifting through the ashes trying to make sense of what's left?

The ones who haven't had a moment to

process just what happened. What about the people who don't want to be strong right now?

Because they're exhausted, because they're grieving, because they're still waking up every

morning to the weight of uncertainty. Resilience isn't just about bouncing back.

Sometimes, it's about allowing yourself to not have it all figured out yet.

So today, I want to talk about a word that gets thrown around a lot when we talk about loss.

Resilience.

You hear it in speeches, we see it in the headlines, and in

well-meaning advice, you're so strong, you'll bounce back. But what if resilience isn't about

being strong? What if it's about being real? About letting yourself feel everything instead of forcing yourself to be okay. Now, this may be a

little controversial, but I know sometimes we confuse resilience with endurance, with pushing through,

with acting like everything is fine when it's not. But real resilience isn't about rushing to be okay. It's about giving

yourself permission not to be okay for a while. It's about making space for the grief, the frustration,

the uncertainty, and knowing that all of it belongs. So this thing about resilience isn't about pretending

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