Welcome to the Girl On Top, Shallon XO Podcast. I'm your host, Shallon Lester, and you

might know me from my YouTube channel, where I analyze several relationships and scandals

for the lessons we can take into our own lives. But here on the podcast, I answer the best

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me on YouTube for four new videos a week. Welcome back to the podcast, Shallon Gators. I'm

so excited to do this episode. We're just going to focus on one question and one topic this week,

but I think it's a really good one. It's about not focusing too hard on what you want to happen.

Wait, Shallon, what come on? What are you talking about? You always tell us to manifest and visualize

yes, I do. But there can be a time, a tipping point in our manifestation and our thinking about

the future and our hopes and wishes, where things shift, and they can go to a dark place, where

it's not that we want something to happen. We need something to happen. I mean, we need it.

So I'm going to tell you how to differentiate between those two things, and how to kind of use

even what we might deem is sucky circumstances, disappointing outcomes to our advantage. But first,

let's do our mantra. Let's get our little jaw wiggly, tug on our ears. This week, I think we've

done this mantra before, but I really like it. Let go and let flow. I like it because it just

reminds us like let life go where it needs to. But if you don't like this one, we're actually we're

doing a double mantra, adapt, modify, overcome. That's mod of the United States Army. I think special

forces. I don't know. I heard a lot during ROTC. I didn't ask too many questions about where came

from, adapt, modify, overcome. Because we're going to talk about happiness today and what makes happiness

and happiness is two factors. It's attitude and resilience. So one mantra focuses on attitude.

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