Hi, I'm a big fan of MPL life kid. My name is Agão. I'm a Korean who lives in Korea.

I suggest that you make a list that you'd like to do after Corona.

On my list, there are so many things. Going to a hairdresser's, barring books from the

library, meeting my friends, having a coffee at a coffee shop, I write down all of these things

and picture them. I think definitely it make you happy.

Himneseo! Bye bye!

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This is Life Kit. I'm Shireen Marisol Maraji, and on this episode, we're going to help you show up

for your friends and loved ones who are going through a really hard time. Rachel Wilkerson Miller shares

tips from her new book, The Art of Showing Up, had to be there for yourself and your people,

and this is part two of our conversation. Rachel's very big on checking in with yourself first.

Before you make yourself available for others. The fact of the matter is if you are tired,

if you're burned out, if you aren't getting your basic needs met, you're not going to be able to

show up for their people, and when you do, you're going to be doing it from this place of

resentment and exhaustion that doesn't feel good for you or for them. Rachel talked about some

good ways to show up for yourself in a previous episode. So, assuming you're feeling strong and

you're ready to be there for someone to lean on, she says the first thing to remember is to keep

your focus on them. We spend so much of our time talking in conversations about either ourselves

or about other people who aren't even present like a third party, and very little talking about

the person we're with. Yeah, and like it makes sense, but when I read that in a book called We Need to Talk,

I was like blown away because I had never thought of it before, and that really inspired me to be

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