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You're listening to Life Kit from NPR.

Hey there, Stacey Vanik Smith here in for Mariel Segara.

When you are having a bad day, who do you call?

Who is that person who makes you feel better?

Maybe someone who really listens to you.

I'm guessing there's a name or a face that's popped into your mind right now?

Yeah, me too.

I think everyone listening probably has someone. And you that person is a super communicator and you're probably a super communicator back to them.

Charles Dewhig is a Pulitzer Prize winning reporter and the best-selling author of The Power of Habit.

His new book, Super Communicators, is a guide to how to unlock the secret language of connection.

The secret to real authentic connection?

I mean, it's not such a big secret.

We have all had those amazing conversations at one time or another,

felt that buzz when your ideas are really in sync with a colleague, or that amazing

amazing feeling when you have a conversation with your partner

and you feel like they really get you.

But there are some people who can do this more consistently with basically anyone.

And what we've learned is that it's not an inborn trait.

It's not a, it's not that introverts can do it better than extroverts or vice versa. Rather, there are some people who've just

paid a little bit more attention to how they communicate with other people and how others

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