You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking about how to balance compassion for others with boundaries

for ourselves. Now, that might not sound like a particularly sexy topic, but it's actually one

that I think the vast majority of people and certainly people within my audience, which tends to

be people who struggle with anxious attachment, could use a lesson in.

And I think it's one that applies to not only our romantic relationships, but certainly our

family dynamics, maybe even friendship. So it's really broaden its application. And at the heart of

this is how to stop abandoning yourself in an effort to understand and

accommodate others and particularly in the context of understanding the motives behind someone's

behaviour, the context for their behaviour, you know, what leads them to be the way they are,

I think those of us who are naturally very empathetic and are

naturally driven to try and maintain relationships and hold on to relationships, I think that can

create a perfect storm where we spend so much time trying to understand someone that we

maybe lose sight of what we actually need in that dynamic,

in that relationship in order to feel, you know, safe and fulfilled and cared for and supported

and whatever else. So I want to share some thoughts on that today and giving you some things

to think about in terms of finding

where that line is for you. And it will be different in different relationships, you know,

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