How to Ask a Girl Out: Episode 913
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 31 July 2025
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
Tips for getting a first date, plus lessons from a man’s spiritual deconstruction, and when your girlfriend hangs out a lot with her gay friends.
Featured musical artist: Kerrie Roberts
Roundtable: Want to Get Coffee?
Asking a girl out isn’t easy; it requires courage. But for many men, their approach is awkward, ill-planned, and lacking confidence — if they summon the nerve to ask at all. Is there a way to ask a woman on a date without making it weird? Our panel of men offers helpful tips from the trenches.
Culture: Lessons in Deconstruction
Nicholas McDonald grew up with a faith that was often formulaic: Do this and get that result from God. But after experiencing the death of his brother and going on a missions trip to another country, Nicholas grappled with the definition of true faith and what Christian beliefs are actually biblical, not just based on tradition or cultural norms. He shares his story with us and models what it looks like to follow Jesus even when you have difficult questions.
Inbox: My Girlfriend Spends Too Much Time With Her Gay Friends
Our listener is concerned about his girlfriend hanging out with her longtime guy friends who identify as gay. Is it time for a hard conversation? Jeff Johnston weighs in.
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| 0:22.4 | Sign up at truthrising.com. |
| 0:24.8 | That's truthrising.com. |
| 0:30.0 | Bowenless Show. |
| 0:44.9 | This is Lisa Anderson here with you. |
| 0:47.2 | I am going to give you a little preview of what is coming up because those of you who like to piecemeal it, even though we don't support that, you can, |
| 0:55.6 | and you can listen to the last segment first and then the first or whatever. |
| 0:59.1 | Whatever you need to do, you do you. |
| 1:01.8 | Okay. |
| 1:02.2 | So that said, later on for our inbox, a listener's girlfriend is still hanging out with her gay friends, |
| 1:09.2 | some of whom she has been friends with for a long time, |
| 1:12.4 | and they're going to bars and staying out late, and this guy's wondering, is this like a deal breaker |
| 1:17.3 | for me dating this girl? So our friend Jeff Johnston is going to answer that question. |
| 1:22.5 | And then for our culture segment, Nicholas MacDonald will share some of his story of his own deconstruction journey |
| 1:29.2 | and how he rediscovered Jesus in the process. Okay, here we are for our roundtable. I have got |
| 1:35.5 | three guys here with me because we are going to have a frank conversation on how to ask a girl out. |
| 1:42.0 | Now, what's really funny is back in the day, like not long after the show |
| 1:46.6 | started, I feel, we did a two-part roundtable, one with guys that was called, I'll ask you out |
| 1:53.8 | if, and then one with girls that was like, I'll go out with you if. And so it was kind of this |
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