Hey friends it's Jamie Grace and welcome to wait it out a podcast all about dating relationships and other things worth waiting for

I'm gonna jump into a question that I got via Instagram DM from C and she says hey Jamie

I'm wondering if you can give me some advice I have feelings for someone in my Bible study and I can't bring myself to say anything.

I'm 21, I've never been on a date, this is the first time I really have feelings

for someone.

I can't bring myself to say anything.

I don't think he feels the same way and I don't want things to be

awkward. I just want to get over him and stop thinking about him. What should I do and

how should I handle it? I've been praying sorry I didn't mean to write a book.

So first of all that's not a book, don't apologize.

Even if it was a book, that would be impressive and you could turn it into a book.

But yeah, so let's talk about this. There's many things going on.

At first she starts off by saying that she has feelings for someone and she can't bring herself to say

anything like she wants to you know actually like take action on it but then it turns

into well I don't think that he feels the same way and I don't want things to be awkward and then it turns to I just need to get over him and stop thinking about him and it turns into this whole like backtracking

insecurities are showing, overwhelmed, confused, like, uh-oh, what kind of mistake

that I just make?

So here's the first thing.

If you have feelings for someone, I would never suggest just like walking up to this person on a random Tuesday

and being like, yo, I have feelings for you, what do you want me to do about it?

Because I do think that that could, you know, scare someone away, it would be a little bit overwhelming.

And honestly, maybe you just have an infatuation with them

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