How To *actually* Care For Your Soul (with Kaleb Allen)
Dad Tired
Jerrad Lopes
4.9 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 8 June 2026
⏱️ 26 minutes
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When your soul feels anxious, restless, angry, or worn down, what do you do?
In this episode of Dad Tired, Pastor Kaleb points men back to one of the most overlooked gifts God has given us for caring for our souls: the Psalms. The Psalms give language to the deepest parts of us — our fear, sorrow, repentance, betrayal, joy, gratitude, and hope.
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what’s going on inside of me,” this episode will help you see the Psalms as God’s invitation to pray when you don’t know how to pray.
Kaleb walks through how Jesus, the apostles, and the early church leaned on the Psalms in moments of suffering, anxiety, worship, and spiritual battle. You’ll be encouraged to stop treating the Psalms as ancient poetry only, and start using them as daily prayers for your soul.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How the Psalms help diagnose and shepherd your soul
Why Jesus prayed the Psalms in His suffering
How the early church used the Psalms in moments of fear and persecution
Why the Psalms give language to anxiety, repentance, grief, and worship
A simple practice for praying through the Psalms each week
Whether you’re anxious, tired, tempted, grateful, or grieving, the Psalms give you words to bring your whole heart before God.
Mentioned in this episode:
Psalm 22, Psalm 23, Psalm 42, Psalm 51, Psalm 63, Psalm 88, Psalm 91, Psalm 103, Psalm 116, Matthew 26, Acts 4, John Calvin, Athanasius, Basil of Caesarea.
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| 0:00.0 | All right, brothers, I was reading recently, John Ortberg, on the idea of stewarding or shepherding or caring for your soul. |
| 0:07.7 | And I know Jared has talked so much about wanting us to be healed men, leading our families out of wholeness, focusing on our own health, and then leading from that position of health. |
| 0:18.8 | And the tricky thing that Ortberg is pointing out is that the soul is super fickle. |
| 0:23.2 | We say things like, I don't even know why I feel so angry or I feel anxious and I'm not even |
| 0:27.7 | sure what I'm anxious about. |
| 0:29.5 | I feel depressed. |
| 0:30.3 | I don't know why I'm depressed. |
| 0:32.2 | Like I'm not even sure what's taking place in the depths of me. |
| 0:37.1 | Sometimes I think what we're trying to articulate is |
| 0:39.2 | my soul is acting out and I have no clue what it's doing. You actually see the like, for instance, |
| 0:45.2 | in Psalm 42-5, right, where the psalmist says, talking to his own soul, why are you downcast? |
| 0:51.0 | And then we see this psalmist like diagnosing the soul. My soul longs, yes, faints for the courts of the |
| 0:58.0 | Lord. Psalm 883. My soul is full of trouble. I'm deeply troubled. And then obviously in the Psalms, |
| 1:05.3 | you get this idea of like instructing the soul. So now I feel anxious and I don't know why I feel |
| 1:10.3 | anxious. And so the psalmist is telling the soul what to do when he says, bless the Lord, oh my soul, forget not all his benefits. Psalm 103.2. I really, I pray this often. Psalm 116 verse 7. The psalmist says, return, oh, my soul to your rest. For the Lord has dealt bountifully with you what is he |
| 1:28.4 | saying like soul you're disturbed come back to rest come back to peace the Lord has been good |
| 1:33.4 | to us the Lord is faithful the Lord is constant steadfast love forever towards us return |
| 1:39.5 | to rest he's dealt bountifully with us and I like that I pray that because sometimes I feel |
| 1:43.7 | so you know just flustered and I start saying to myself, return to your rest, my soul. For the Lord has been bountiful. The Lord has dealt bountifully with us. And so Orberg in his work, he's describing this kind of this reality that I don't know that we've thought too deeply about that the soul is fickle and the soul is |
| 2:02.6 | needy and the soul has all this wanting like it needs affirmation it needs rest it needs security |
| 2:09.6 | why is it anxious because it feels insecure about something I don't even know where I'm insecure so our souls are |
| 2:14.9 | really really fickle and with that in view when we go like okay when my body is weak maybe I'm insecure. So our souls are really, really fickle. And with that in view, when we go like, okay, when my body is weak, maybe I'm taking medicine or like, I'm out of shape. And so I need to do some cardio or my marriage is not healthy. And so to make sure we're dating or maybe we need some counseling. What the soul is tricky is like, my soul is not healthy. What then do I do? I think that's the question that so many of us find ourselves in. And God has given us some tools, like, right? God's given us some ways to maintain healthy souls. So when Jared says he wants you to lead out of the position of health, then the kind of the logical thing is like, does that mean like how do I maintain a position of |
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