There are two options for gaining the valuable relationships you want and need to have a rich, fulfilling existence. Before I tell you though, there is a foundational assumption that must be met regardless, and we actually didn’t address it in this episode, so I want to cover it here. ⁣ ⁣ You must have exposure. I find many people who lack friendships also don’t get much exposure to people, and especially new people. I won’t belabor this but I’ve found the absolute number one way to achieve this is get in groups of kindred spirits. Take an interest you have and get around other people with that same interest. ⁣ ⁣ And coworkers may not fit. Working at the same place is not the same interest. Neither is family for that matter. I’m talking to literally know what you are interested in, curious about, inspired by, and find other people who are as well. After that…the two options for accumulating valuable relationships are either instigating them, or, making friends with an instigator. ⁣ ⁣ This is Part 3 of my discussion on Laura Tremaine host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. My focus is on the friends everyone needs, women and men. ⁣ ⁣ To round out our discussion I invited Brianna Brown Keen on to co-host the discussion. Brianna Brown Keen is an accomplished actress, appearing in more than 20 feature films and 30 television shows. Along with being a present day, working actress, Brianna has produced an initiative and book called Manifesting Your Mission where she guides entrepreneurs, including a lot of people in show business, in making true progress toward your goals. ⁣ ⁣ Brianna is a relationship instigator, and we talk about what this looks like. But if you hear Brianna and feel you are not a fit for being an instigator, then I want you to hear your focus is to befriend…an instigator. Find a Brianna in your life, even if it’s as a paid part of a community or mastermind as Brianna leads. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices