We got an email in that simply reads, too early to go to his place.

So they said, when it comes to the early stages of dating, i.e. first month or two,

what would you say is the right balance between having exterior dates versus dates where you go to one another's place?

Part of me wonders whether getting to the in-home dates too quickly or doing those too frequently in the beginning

gets you to the cuddly stage prematurely, which may scare the guy off.

Hope to hear your thoughts on this.

Sincerely, one of your original followers.

I think there's not just a danger of you getting to the Cuppley stage too quickly and

scaring him off.

There's obviously the danger of getting to the casual categorisation where it's just kind of all very easy.

Yeah, well, those are two different things, right? Those are two different kinds of risk.

Right. Yeah. Cuppley is like, scaring him off by getting to the Cuppley stage too quickly,

might be inviting him to dinner with your parents.

Right.

But inviting him over or going over to his house doesn't necessarily get you to cut to the cuply stage that's going to scare him off.

Right.

It just might get you to the, you know, friends with benefits stage or, you know, just

hanging out at each other's homes and it all being

very, very easy and frictionless or friction full. There's what you want to do and there's what's

prudent to do. You might want to jump someone that you just met five minutes ago. It doesn't

mean it's prudent to do that. It might not even mean that's safe to do that, right? So I'm just

going to extremes here to illustrate this point. I would say this to it. People make this

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