You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

Today's episode is a Q&A episode and I'm answering the question how to discuss moving in

together with an avoidant partner. So this is a question that I got via my Instagram stories last week and I think it's going to be a really useful discussion

Not only for people who are in that specific situation. There may be some listening

But it's going to illustrate a broader technique or

approach that you can take in broaching those maybe sensitive discussions maybe things that feel intimidating, that feel anxiety-inducing.

If you're wanting to discuss, you know, taking next steps in a relationship, having any sort of

where is this going, are we conversation with a partner who does lean

towards a voidant attachment and so might have some resistance to those conversations so

that's what we're going to be talking about today. I'm going to

offer you some reframes on how to do the work behind the scenes for yourself going into that

so that you're not in this really constricted state of anxiety and

worry and overthinking and trying to be perfect in the way that you discuss that because

I think that's the tendency.

And I'll also give you some really practical tools and strategies in terms of the

how-to of having that conversation, of starting it, of actually going about navigating those discussions depending on where it goes.

So depending on their response, how you can respond to that to really optimize your chances

of not necessarily getting an outcome.

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