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Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

How Premarital Counseling Builds Skills for a Stronger Marriage | Jesse Stanley | Love | E510

Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

YAP Media Network | Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7890 Ratings

🗓️ 19 March 2026

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Premarital counseling isn’t a “just in case” thing. It’s one of the smartest ways to protect a happy relationship before real life stress hits. These premarital tips can prevent years of communication problems and quiet resentment later. Want a stronger marriage? Start building emotional intimacy before you’re in crisis mode. Most couples don’t struggle because they stop loving each other. They struggle because no one ever taught them the skills that help love last. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m talking with my colleague Jesse Stanley about what premarital counseling actually is, why it matters, and how learning relationship skills early can change the trajectory of a marriage. We explore some of the most important premarital counseling questions couples should ask before marriage, including how to talk about money, conflict, expectations, emotional intimacy, and the family patterns each person brings into the relationship. If you’ve ever wondered what premarital counseling is, or whether premarital and marital counseling can help couples build a stronger foundation before problems begin, this conversation will give you a very real and practical perspective. Jesse Stanley is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a military background who creates a judgment-free environment where growth and healing flourish. He helps individuals and couples build deeper, more satisfying relationships, navigate major life transitions, recover from heartbreak, manage stress, and create happier, more fulfilling lives. Episode Breakdown 00:00 Why Love Isn’t Enough for a Healthy Marriage 03:24 How Premarital Counseling Strengthens Relationships 10:44 What Good Premarital Counseling Should Cover 17:32 The Issues Couples Overlook Until It’s Too Late 20:18 How to Talk About Hard Things Without Blowing Up 31:40 What to Expect From the Premarital Counseling Process 47:43 Why Premarital Counseling Is Preventative Care for Marriage If this conversation resonated with you and your partner, I’d love to help you take the next step. At Growing Self, you can answer three quick questions and book your free consultation with the right expert for your relationship. It’s private, secure, and only takes a couple of minutes. Many couples start here when they want stronger communication, deeper emotional connection, and a healthier foundation for their future together. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month’s sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com Strawberry.me — Career coaching that helps you gain clarity, build a strategic plan, and take confident steps toward the career you want with expert support. Get 50% off your first coaching session at strawberry.me/LHS.

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0:00.0

You know, I don't think anybody stands at the altar with this idea of like, well, there's like a 50% chance that we make it.

0:13.1

My friends, most marriages do not run into trouble because people stop loving each other. They start to feel hard because many couples

0:24.6

never really learn how to do the things that are required to have a healthy relationship.

0:34.1

Love gets people married, but it's like the skills that keep them married, right?

0:38.9

Especially happily married.

0:40.6

Good communication skills.

0:42.7

Getting on the same page about money.

0:45.4

Feeling like they are in an equitable partnership where everybody is contributing in ways that feel good.

0:52.0

Sex, boundaries.

0:53.2

I mean, how we even experience love, how we show love to

0:57.6

the other person. Like, there's a lot here. Even the way you fight, like, that is a learnable skill.

1:08.9

The real question is not, are we compatible, right?

1:12.0

It's like, what do we do when we're not?

1:13.6

What are we doing when things a little bit different?

1:16.6

Or if you don't fight, that is actually a problem, learning how to do this constructively.

1:22.0

So many different things are relationship skills.

1:30.5

And who teaches us relationship skills, right?

1:38.7

The other thing to know is that the very best way to learn relationship skills and practice is not after things get hard. It is before things get hard. And that, all these reasons, is why it's so

1:47.4

important for people thinking about getting married to do pre-marital counseling. Not the weird

1:55.0

conversation with the priest, but actual meaningful relationship growth work. That helps you learn the skills that are necessary to have the kind of marriage you want.

2:10.7

And that is what we're talking about on this episode of love, happiness, and success.

2:15.8

This is your first time tuning in. I'm your host,

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