Are you worried about choosing the wrong partner?

46% of our audience cited this as their biggest fair in dating, so you aren't alone.

But the mistake isn't choosing wrong.

It's staying too long, which I learned the hard way in my 20s and even 30s.

I'm Julie.

And I'm UA, and we're sharing what we learned the hard way so you don't have to.

Who? Choosing the wrong partner. Our biggest fear. Well, there's also all this media around, you know, choosing your partners, making the right choice in your partner is. The biggest decision of your life is going to dictate how your future is and your finances and et cetera. It feels very

overwhelming. So sometimes that puts so much fear in us that we end up saying, like, I don't

trust myself in my picker. It also feels like you can't turn back. Like once you made the decision,

you're stuck. And clearly, that's not true. Even people get divorced. It's harder. Definitely harder to undo it, but it's not like you can never undo it. And where you don't want to be is you feel like, well, this doesn't feel like the right thing, but I'm going to make it the right thing. I'm going to force it to be the right thing. And I'm going to stay in this for as long as I can. And I'm going to just make sure that this works out. Yeah. I mean, I think when I look back to when I maybe chose wrong, it was I dated who they could be, not who they were. And then I paid for it later. And I think if I had taken things a little more at face value,

then I would have been able to tune in with myself and be like, this doesn't feel right. This doesn't

feel good. I don't feel valued. Some of it was I had to get that confidence myself. And I only

knew what I knew. You know, everything's a learning,

a learning example. I think, you know, you need those experiences, right, to build on each other.

So I think to have grace with yourself, if you've chosen wrong in the past, because everything

teaches you what you're going to stand for in the future. And we're speaking to you from

the future. If you are in your 20s, us being in our 40s, what I would tell my 20-some-year-old self

is got to experience what you like and what you don't like. And sometimes you don't know until you

get into a relationship and you're put in certain scenarios.

So yeah, sometimes a relationship fails or you end up with somebody you're like,

why did I pick that person or I feel foolish?

Give yourself some grace because you kind of needed to go through that to make this list of like,

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