For at McKay here and welcome to the edition of the Art of Manliness Podcast, how long does

it take to make friends?

For someone you meet who's a potential friend, to turn into an actual friend.

If you're out of college and not a young adult anymore, you know that it sure feels like

it's a process that takes an awfully long time.

Well, my guess is actually crunch the numbers on this question, has the numerical figures

to answer it, as well as a whole lot of insight into the dynamics of friendship that are

harder to quantify.

His name is Jeffrey Hall, and he's a professor at Communication Studies who counts friendship

among the topics of his research.

Today on the show, Jeff explains the three levels of friends the make up the sort of friendship

hierarchy, how many hours it takes for someone to move from one level to the next, and why

it's hard to accumulate these needed hours as an adult.

We all talk about how sheer time is in the only factor that's needed transforming acquaintance

to a closer best friend, and the other factors that need to be in play as well.

We then shift and discuss another element that influences the friendship making process.

The expectations each friend has for friendship.

We discuss how expectations for friendship differ according to sex and personality, and

what happens when two people have differing expectations for what it means to be friends.

After shows over, check out our show notes at a-m dot i s slash friendship time.

Jeffrey Hall, welcome to the show.

It's good to be here, thank you.

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