Hello and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little better at life.

I'm your host, Corey Miscara, and in today's episode, we are going to talk about why you may be struggling to let go.

More to come on that in a moment. First, let's settle in together with the sound of the bells.

Okay. in a moment first let's settle in together with the sound of the bells okay so the other day I made a post on Instagram where I said, if you want to let go, fall madly in love with the part of you that is holding on.

If you want to let go, fall madly in love with the part of you that is holding on. So to be transparent, the phrasing fall madly in love with might be a little bit of an exaggeration.

Kind of float better when I was writing it to say it that way. And it is an

emphasis on the point I am trying to get across. And that is that our usual way of trying to

let go is to move away from something. And it creates an antagonistic

relationship with that thing, whether it's the memory of past relationship and idea of a life

that we were supposed to have. A job or career we know is no longer right that we need to

transition from.

And any time there's an antagonistic relationship to that thing, but specifically to the part

of us that's still holding on to that thing, it means we are still entangled with it in a way that is going to actually make it

quite difficult to disentangle. Because the reality is that if we're not able to let go of something

easily, it means there's a part of us that still believes our life will be better with

that thing, or that we won't be able to hold the reality of not having that thing, or there will

be a difficult emotion or truth we will have to confront if we were to truly let go.

And that is the key thing here that the reason we don't let go is seldom due to a lack of will.

The reason we don't let go is because we're afraid of what we would have to feel if we accepted the truth of where we are.

Really let yourself take that in.

Because it's one thing to hear that cognitively and go, oh, yeah, that sounds right and sounds nice.

You know, It flows well.

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