How Identity Shapes Fatherhood | 351
Dad Tired
Jerrad Lopes
5 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 15 May 2023
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Jerrad shares how a small moment in the kitchen led to two days of silence. What seemed like a simple argument uncovered old pressure, unspoken expectations, and a deep fear of not being enough. He reflects on how that pattern formed in childhood, how it still shows up today, and what it looks like to let Jesus into places marked by shame and performance.
Tune in to hear how honesty can lead to healing, even in the quiet places you try to ignore.
What You’ll Hear:
- How unhealed wounds show up in everyday parenting and marriage
- Why a simple moment can expose deep identity struggles
- The lie every man wrestles with: “I’m not good enough”
- What childhood pain has to do with present behavior
- Why silence and anger often point to something deeper
- How your story can shift when you let Jesus speak into it
- The importance of counseling, confession, and soul health
- What your kids need more than a perfect dad
Episode Resources:
- Philippians 1:6, Romans 8:1, Revelation 21
- Dad Tired Family Leadership Program – https://www.dadtired.com
- Invite Jerrad to speak – https://www.jerradlopes.com
- Read The Dad Tired Book – https://amzn.to/3YTz4GB
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| 0:41.2 | Last week, Layla came home from the grocery store and was just taking out the groceries |
| 0:46.4 | and we were preparing dinner for the night. And I was in the kind of the corner of the kitchen |
| 0:51.7 | cutting some chicken up for dinner. And she was taking groceries out of the grocery bag. And she was kind of showing corner of the kitchen cutting some chicken up for dinner and she was taking groceries |
| 0:55.8 | out of the grocery bag and she was kind of showing me the things that she had bought and |
| 0:59.2 | she pulls out this piece of cheese this like nice fancy cheese you don't buy in like the |
| 1:04.5 | refrigerated deli you know craft cheese section you buy from like the the deli i don't know there's |
| 1:10.7 | like an expensive cheese section. |
| 1:12.2 | That's clear through where she got it from. It's like this goat raspberry goat cheese or something |
| 1:16.5 | like that. I don't know. Anyway, she pulls this out and I'm like, why did you get that? We don't like |
| 1:20.8 | eat that kind of cheese. You know, I'm a poor man cheese. And she pulls it out and she starts to tell me, she's like, I know we don't normally eat |
| 1:29.1 | it, but there's nothing I would, this is how she started the sentence. She said, there's nothing |
| 1:32.7 | I would love more than to break open this cheese, open a bottle of wine. And in my brain, before she |
| 1:39.1 | had even finished the thought, before she had even finished that sentence. And my brain immediately started to finish it |
| 1:46.3 | for her. How I was finishing it was open this cheese, crack open a bottle of wine, and sit with you |
| 1:53.9 | and like watch a movie or something. Essentially that we would eat this and enjoy this nice thing |
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