All right, team, welcome back to the Man Talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

Today I'm going to be sharing with you the five specific tactical steps that I took to move from avoidant,

an avoidant attachment style to a secure attachment style. Okay. I was pretty avoidant. I was very avoidant, an avoidant attachment style, to a secure attachment style. Okay? I was pretty

avoidant, I was very avoidant, which I'll talk about a little bit. But these things are things

that you can deploy and see results relatively quickly. This is not a lifelong, you know,

work in progress that you're going to have to spend the rest of your life doing. It's not a

multi-decade project. This is something that you can deploy and actually start to see results and change in

your life. But that is dependent on two specific things. One, as an avoidant, you are going to need to

get uncomfortable. It doesn't matter what type of avoidant you are. It doesn't matter about your past. It doesn't matter

what mommy and daddy looks like and how they treated you and what your family system looked like.

Yes, all of that is relevant and no, it doesn't matter in the context of what I'm about to lay out.

You are going to have to get uncomfortable. Okay. And I'm going to explain why in a second. The second thing, though, is you are going to have to get uncomfortable. Okay. And I'm going to explain why in a second. The second thing,

though, is you are going to have to face and move into your resistance. You are going to have

a tremendous amount of resistance to everything that I am going to lay out. I promise you.

I know that because I had a ton of resistance around doing

any of these things, mostly because of the heart and core of what it means to be an avoidant

attachment style. At the heart of every avoidant attached person is the belief that it is safer

for me, it is easier for me, it is better for me to

be alone than to be relational. Okay, it's easier for me to rely on myself. It's easier for me to meet

my own needs. It's easier for me to trust myself than it is to have somebody else meet my

needs, to trust somebody else, to rely on somebody

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