Hi, my name is Melissa Urban, and you're listening to Do the Thing, a

podcast where we explore what's been missing every time you've tried to make a change and make it stick.

Today I'm sharing the practice I've used to bomb proof my self-confidence in every area of my life and giving you specific examples and my best strategies for starting this process in your own life.

I've talked a lot about how I used to require a lot of validation from outside sources

and that I no longer feed off of that validation, that I no longer feel like there's

this hole that I need other people to help me fill.

I talked about this a little bit and do the thing 10 where I first introduced the topic of judgment.

And I shared a story about a judgmental behavior that I used to exhibit and kind of touched

on this idea that it came out of the need to seek validation from others

and how jealous I would get when I would watch other people get the same validation that

I so desperately sought. I also mentioned in that podcast that I so desperately sought.

I also mentioned in that podcast that I don't do this anymore, that I had figured out a way to

bomb proof my sense of self-confidence and my self-worth such that I no longer craved validation from other people.

It no longer filled me up and I no longer needed it to tell me who I was.

After I shared that episode, I got a lot of comments and

dimes from people who said specifically,

how did you do that?

And there was just too much to share in an Instagram comment.

This has been a long process that I undertook

with my therapist, and it took the better part of, I would say a few years to really learn this technique and unpack it.

But it's been so valuable and it's been so transformational for me that I wanted to share it here with you today.

So here we go.

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