How Gretchen Rubin's Famous 5-Minute Quiz Will Effortlessly Enhance Your Life
The Mindvalley Podcast with Vishen
Mindvalley
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🗓️ 7 August 2023
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
Today on The Mindvalley Show, embark on a journey of self-discovery with acclaimed writer Gretchen Rubin as she unravels the enigmatic world of The Four Tendencies. Renowned for her ability to distill complex ideas into relatable wisdom, Rubin introduces the intriguing personalities that shape our responses to expectations. Her bestselling book "The Four Tendencies" delves into Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels—distinct types that impact how we navigate life's demands.
In this episode, Rubin exposes the strengths and challenges of each tendency. Whether you're an Upholder who readily meets inner and outer expectations, a Questioner who seeks rationality, an Obliger who thrives under external accountability, or a Rebel who defies convention, understanding your tendency can revolutionize your growth journey. Tune in to gain insights into effective communication and leadership strategies tailored to these tendencies, empowering you to navigate relationships and professional endeavors with newfound clarity.
Discover your tendency, leverage it for growth, and gain valuable insights into effective interaction and leadership. Tune in now and embark on a transformative exploration that will reshape your perception of yourself and others.
Key takeaways:
[01:19] The Four Tendencies: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel
[02:59] How your tendency affects your behavior
[03:44] Upholder tendency: meets both outer and inner expectations
[05:14] Questioner tendency: questions all expectations and needs reasons
[7:28] Obliger tendency: meets outer expectations but struggles with inner expectations
[9:30] Rebel tendency: resists both outer and inner expectations
[11:52] How to communicate and lead different personality types
[15:30] The concept of Obliger Rebellion
[17:54] The unique strength of The Rebel
Where to find our guest:
Memorable Quotes:
"There's no right, there's no wrong. It's just whatever works for you." [2:45] -Gretchen Rubin
"There's enormous power in the rebel tendency. They tend to be great entrepreneurs because then they're making the rules and doing things their own way." [18:31] -Gretchen Ruben
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to our episode of the Mind Valley show with Gretchen Rubin on the four tendencies. |
| 0:05.4 | You're going to love this because before this video is done, you're going to be asked to take a |
| 0:10.4 | simple quiz on Gretchen's website that's going to help you establish one of four personality types |
| 0:16.3 | for yourself. I just did this. I'm what you would call a questioner. And when you understand |
| 0:21.3 | your personality type, this is going to change the way you interact with other people the way |
| 0:25.9 | you show up at work. You're going to understand little nuances about yourself. But first, |
| 0:30.3 | let me introduce Gretchen Rubin. Gretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential and thought |
| 0:35.0 | provoking observers of happiness and human nature. And a claimed writer, she's known for her ability |
| 0:42.1 | to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity. She's written nine books. And today, |
| 0:48.5 | we're going to be diving into ideas from the four tendencies, one of my favorite Gretchen Rubin |
| 0:54.4 | books. Gretchen, welcome to Mind Valley. I'm so happy to be talking to you. |
| 0:57.7 | So I did the quiz today. I'm a questioner. But before we get into that, I just want to say, |
| 1:03.6 | I found this quiz. It took me about maybe seven minutes to do. I found it really intriguing. |
| 1:09.9 | The questions that were asked, but also the insights that came from it. Tell us about the four |
| 1:15.2 | tendencies, how you came up with this idea and what our audience needs to know. |
| 1:19.5 | Well, I realized in my study of habits that there were patterns that people fell into. |
| 1:24.0 | Like certain people didn't like New Year's resolutions because they were arbitrary or certain |
| 1:28.0 | people are worth thinking, why is it that I can always keep my promises to other people, |
| 1:32.6 | but I can't keep my promises to myself. And some people are saying, why do people always tell me |
| 1:38.0 | that I asked you many questions? Why is it that I never want to do anything that somebody tells me |
| 1:41.6 | to do? And I realized that there was a way to understand these patterns until we could really |
| 1:46.6 | set ourselves up for success or help other people find more success by understanding themselves better. |
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