Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne. Today I have my mom and my sister who we will call mom and sister.

Say hi guys. Hello. Hi. They are going to talk about their experience supporting me

or not supporting me through what happened.

Many of you were asking about how to talk to your friends and family about what's happened to you.

So when I was married, when I would call you with concerns and tell you what was going on because the whole time I was pretty

honest about what was happening. How would you react at the time before you knew that it was

abuse and what types of advice would you give.

So let's start with my sister.

So I remember a number of times, Anne would call and say that there had been a fight and that things had gone out of hand and that

terrible things had happened and I would often say things like everyone has problems in their marriage or try to downplay it.

I would try to normalize maybe what had happened or relate to it in some

way. I didn't realize it was outside of what should be happening I guess.

Mom? That's the same with me. Sometimes you'd call me like at two or three in the morning.

It doesn't happen very often, but occasionally it did. And you'd say,

he's running outside in his underwear. I think that's really odd why is he doing

that what would possess him to do that and so there were some really odd things

that you would say that he had done or some things that happened

that I knew were odd.

I just thought, well, maybe that's just what he's like.

Maybe he's just what he's like. Maybe he's just that way and I probably advised you.

I don't remember the exact words I said, but I think I remember something like, well,

how do you think you should handle that?

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