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I'm wondering how can I nicely tell my fiance that his parents' financial shortcomings aren't his job to solve.

Ooh.

I'm looking at John.

Yeah, I mean, my first answer would be just to read back what, I mean, to say back

what you just said, to sit down and say, hey, honey, your, your parents' financial challenges

aren't yours to solve.

I'm assuming that you've tried that in 1,700 other iterations of that.

And so I think the deeper question is less about you asking him,

it's you asking yourself, do I want to here at the doorstep?

Do I want to be married to somebody who will put his parents' financial shortcomings

ahead of the family that we are about to start co-creating together? That's the real question here.

All right. I just, I mean, I understand some of it, but like, it's at some point we were paying their mortgage and, you know.

Tell us how the conversation goes. When you say what John said, which is, honey, dear, I can't live like this.

Your parents, their struggles, they're not your fault.

We can't solve them.

We've got to solve our own for our own financial piece.

What does that conversation look like and what does he do?

It's usually, I mean, it never really ends in a fight or anything like that.

But it's usually like, you're still my parents.

I don't want to see them fail. And I mean, I get that. I do. But like, at what point is it, at what point do you let them learn for them, themselves?

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