How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

Self-improvement, Society & Culture, Education, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 734 Ratings

🗓️ 9 August 2022

⏱️ 21 minutes

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In this episode, I coach Dakota and address the question, “How do I release the burden of feeling responsible to protect my siblings from the struggles and challenges of life?” Dakota is the oldest of six children, and she has always felt responsible for her younger siblings. She wants to be there to help them, but she finds herself taking on their problems and as a result sometimes feels drained and ill.It is a myth that you can solve someone else’s problems. The belief that you can take on ...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your faith. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships.
0:38.3	Join me here every week as I coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them
0:43.0	with tools to find healing.
0:45.0	I'm so excited to welcome Dakota to the show today.
0:48.5	Welcome, Dakota.
0:49.9	Hi, Julie.
0:50.8	Thank you for having me.
0:51.9	I'm so excited to be here.
0:53.5	I'm so excited to have you too. And what is
0:56.1	your question for me today? Yes. Okay, I've been trying to formulate this question, so hopefully it
1:01.6	comes out well. So I am the oldest child of six. So I grew up in a large family and I'm the oldest.
1:08.6	And based on recent experiences, my question is how do I
1:13.3	release the burden of being the oldest child who felt responsible to protect my siblings from
1:19.3	pain and struggles and hardships? Now everyone in my family, they're adults now, right? And I'm
1:26.2	recognizing that it's not healthy for me, emotionally, mentally,
1:29.3	and physically to continue, you know, standing in this role of trying to protect them from
1:35.9	the struggles and their challenges in life. Yeah. So was that just always there in your life,
1:42.2	Dakota? Just that pressure of feeling like the parent?
1:46.1	Yes. Okay. Yes. And is that because your parents were not functioning well enough to take care of the children? Is that?
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