How do I let go of others’ emotional burdens?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

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🗓️ 29 March 2022

⏱️ 24 minutes

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In this episode, I coach Ali and address the question, “How do I let go of others’ emotional burdens?” Ali remembers taking on others’ burdens from a very young age. She has come to feel that her value and identity are connected to helping other people carry their loads. She sometimes feels like a bad person when she has her own difficult burdens and emotions to work through.During our time together I help Ali see that it is important to process, talk about, and feel her emotions. Difficult e...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your fate. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships. Join me here every week
0:39.5	as I coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them with tools to find healing.
0:45.1	I'm so happy to welcome Allie to the podcast today. Welcome, Allie. Thanks for having me back. I'm excited.
0:51.6	Yay. Well, let's chat. What's your question for me this time? Okay. So this time my
0:56.5	question is, how can I let go of what I don't need to hold on to anymore? Okay. Like what?
1:03.3	Oh, so many things. Okay. But let's talk, let's say it's like just maybe more emotional things,
1:09.8	like things I don't need to hold on to anymore.
1:12.3	And I know I don't need to hold on to them, but I can't seem to just let it go.
1:16.8	Okay. So I want you to give me an example. What is something emotional that you're holding on to that you want to let go of?
1:24.2	Other people's problems that don't even affect me but like they've been told to me so therefore
1:29.8	I've been talking with them and helping them through something but it's not mine to carry
1:34.8	right so what do you get from carrying it I assume I get nothing and that I get tired. Right. So you get nothing and tired,
1:46.5	but there is something or you wouldn't be doing it. Yes, that's true. Do you get to feel a certain way
1:52.3	or think a certain way about yourself? I guess probably feel like I'm taking the burden from someone
1:58.4	else. I'm helping them. I'm helping. Yeah.
2:01.6	Okay.
2:02.2	Okay.
2:04.1	Have you ever thought about that before?
2:05.8	You know, yeah.
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