How Do I Know What Is Real or True When My Husband Gaslights Me? [165]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.0 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 5 April 2022

⏱️ 23 minutes

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Summary

Is the last thing you googled, “Am I crazy?” or “Why does my husband hate me?” or the literal title of this episode? Bleh. Living in such horrible, constant confusion can make us obsessive. Not crazy obsessive. The “desperate for answers” kind. The “I’m living in purgatory and I hate it!” kind. The “Is it me even though I’m trying so hard?” kind. If you’re looking for a fixed point of reference—a way to know what’s real and true, then you’ve stumbled across something better than 6.84 million Google results. Because I’m going to answer your question in incredible detail. In this episode, I lay all the cards on the table: - The messages this crazymaking makes in our brains (which are much more dangerous than the crazymaking and abuse) - Why your husband’s behavior is not actually creating the problems (WHAT?!? Hear me out.) - The ONE THING you keep giving your husband that you need to give yourself instead - Why trusting a man who lies means you can’t trust someone more important (it’s a nasty cycle) - Resources to help you get off this hamster wheel of horror…for keeps Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/165 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.6	Welcome to episode 165 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today I'm going to answer a
0:28.0	listener question but before I do that I just want to say thank you so much to those of you who have left a rating and review on Apple iTunes or
0:37.8	podcasts I think it's called Apple Podcast now
0:40.9	those ratings and those reviews are not only super encouraging to read for me and my staff,
0:48.0	but they are also really helpful for other people who are considering listening to this
0:55.6	podcast and they also help Apple iTunes or podcasts or whatever they're called
1:00.9	now they help them decide whether or not to show this
1:04.6	podcast in front of other people who are scrolling through and looking for potential
1:09.2	podcasts to listen to. So it's one of the ways that if you're enjoying this podcast and it's really
1:15.0	benefited your life it's one of the ways that you can help to get this in
1:19.6	front of the eyes of other Christian women just like you who need to hear the things that we talk about here
1:26.2	at Flying Free. All right, we are going to listen to, I have one listener question I'm going to answer and it's a really really good one so let's
1:36.2	listen to it first and then we'll dig into our show today.
1:42.3	I would like to listen to a podcast on how to know whether or not, like how to know what's real, how to know what's real I don't know what truth is I've been married for four years to my
1:57.1	husband and it's he's been a covert abuser the whole time and I'm just now being enlightened to this and
2:07.6	he tries and twists things back onto me and makes me feel crazy and I just I don't really know what reality is and what's true and what's real and I want to trust and believe and hope and it's just right now I'm just kind of
2:28.4	Wearing and I don't I just don't know what to believe so it's just really hard to like put my mind to give my mind clarity and to know
2:40.2	what's what needs to happen, I guess.
2:47.1	I love this question because I've heard some version
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