Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

People ask me all the time how do you find happy and how the fuck would I know? No, I have some ideas and I have some ideas based on my story, my journey and also all the clients that have helped.

First, happy is not found. If you are waiting for happy, you're going to be waiting for a long time. Maybe a few lifetimes, I don't know.

But I think happy is built, and so let me explain this.

Number one, if you're going to build happy,

because when I say happy is built, people are going to say,

well, how do you build happy?

Yes, of course, that's different for everyone based on their definition, but I think there

are some broad strokes that are common that are foundational to

building happy so number one to build happy you have to calm your nervous system and what I mean by that is most of us have

had chaotic lives most of us have had chaotic lives.

Most of us believe that the life stove is hot,

meaning they've been burned.

There's been lots of trauma, there's been

abuse, there's been a lot of things that have happened to us that has

activated our nervous system, so it's's in it's just like it's just on like on

standby like it's about the fight right and so if you're in that state and I know

this state very well I was in this state for most of my 20s and 30s just a state or a fight or flight you know survival mode right a lot of our parents were in this state.

And if you believe the sky is falling,

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