How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me?

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Dr. Julie Hanks

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🗓️ 15 November 2022

⏱️ 27 minutes

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In this episode, I talk with Rachel and address the question “How do I come to terms with decisions my parents made for my life that should have been made by me?” Rachel shares a few examples with me that have left her wondering “What if?” Now that Rachel is about to become a mother, she is struggling with the choice of whether to be a stay-at-home mom (which her parents have always encouraged her to do) or have a career. We talk about how she can set boundaries with her parents around t...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Ask Dr. Julie Hanks, a safe place for healing conversations that educate and empower you to
0:23.2	prioritize your dreams, revolutionize your family, and personalize your faith. I'm your host,
0:29.2	Dr. Julie Hanks, a psychotherapist and coach offering online courses and programs to help women
0:34.5	all over the world heal themselves and their relationships.
0:38.3	Join me here every week as I coach a listener through a specific challenge and empower them
0:43.0	with tools to find healing.
0:45.2	I'm so excited to welcome Rachel to the podcast today. Welcome, Rachel. Thank you. I'm excited
0:51.2	to be here. Well, I'm happy to have you. What is your question for me today?
0:56.6	Yes. So my question is I feel like some important decisions in my life that, you know, should have been made by me were kind of dictated and made by my parents.
1:07.6	And I'm curious, how do I, you know, rectify slash come to terms with these things
1:13.3	years later? Let's get more specific. Yeah, I think a lot of people will be able to relate to this.
1:20.4	I hope so. Yeah, I hope it can be helpful. The kind of the specific instance that I'm thinking of is when I was, you know, going into high school, you know, my parents kind of came to me and were like, hey, we can't keep up dance classes for you.
1:35.9	And I had been doing dance for a few years and it was something that I had really grown to love.
1:41.6	It was like kind of this, you know, like therapeutic outlet for me.
1:45.5	And, you know, it just like really resonated with me. I loved it. And, you know, for financial
1:49.8	reasons, we couldn't keep up with it. But also they were saying how, you know, it's not conducive
1:55.7	to having a family, you know, pursuing dance down the road or like doing it professionally as well as like, you know,
2:03.0	I offered to, you know, get a job and help pay for those dance classes.
2:09.2	Wow.
2:10.0	But they like shot that down pretty quickly.
2:12.7	And so ever since then, I've just had that what if, you know, I always wanted to, you know, take dance classes in college.
2:20.3	That never really happened because I was studying and had to, like, I wasn't studying dance.
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