Do you find that your relationships are affected by poor boundaries and self-esteem?

Or do you perhaps have too many boundaries and too much self-esteem?

If so, this episode is for you.

We will be diving into common issues that arise so that you can be on the lookout for

these patterns in your relationships.

Welcome back to Savvy Psychologist.

I'm your host, Dr. Monica Johnson.

Every week on this show, I'll help you face life challenges with evidence-based approaches,

a sympathetic ear and zero judgment.

No matter where you land, between too much or too little,

when it relates to boundaries and self-esteem, we want to avoid these patterns

as they cause problems when we try to form mutually beneficial relationships.

To help us understand relationship patterns and behaviors, we'll outline the relationship grid,

developed by therapist Terry Real, which is a useful way to conceptualize

where your primary maladaptive relationship style trends.

In this model, the horizontal axis represents boundaries,

and the vertical axis represents self-esteem.

Don't worry if you're a visual learner.

You can view the show notes for this episode on QDT

or visit my Instagram at Kind Mind Psych for a visual representation.

First up, let's start with the vertical axis, which measures self-esteem.

The top of the axis is grandiosity or one up, and the bottom is toxic shame or one down.

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