How Covert Narcissists Create Trauma Bonds
Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter
Dr. Les Carter
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🗓️ 11 October 2022
⏱️ 62 minutes
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Summary
Covert narcissists have a special way of bonding with you that can feel normal...at first. They are masters of deception in the sense that they can create initial positive impressions, even as they slowly diminish you. Dr. Les Carter gives you a clear description of trauma bonding, and weaves it into an explanation of the distinct ways covert narcissists operate. You can learn to detect the signs of the trauma bonds in your key relationships, then as your insight grows, so can your capacity for boundaries and independent living.
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| 0:00.0 | Today's podcast is sponsored by the people at ARA.com. |
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| 1:02.2 | welcome to this week's episode of the Surviving Narcissism podcast. |
| 1:12.3 | This is Michelle, the program director, and I'd like to start this episode with a short introduction. |
| 1:17.9 | For those of you new to this podcast, Surviving Narcissism is the product of many years of work done by Dr. Les Carter. |
| 1:24.9 | Dr. Carter is a best-selling author and therapist with more than 40 years of |
| 1:29.0 | experience, specializing in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. |
| 1:35.2 | This week, Dr. C's topic will be how covert narcissists create trauma bond. |
| 1:50.1 | Well, hello, Team Healthy. I'm so pleased to be with you once again, and we're going to be talking about a very interesting topic today and one that I hope can bring some clarity |
| 1:56.0 | to you. I know you've heard the term covert narcissist, and you may or may not be totally familiar with |
| 2:03.0 | the term trauma bond, but I'm going to see if we can fuse some understanding of both of those |
| 2:08.7 | elements into one and give you an idea of what you might be up against without realizing |
| 2:14.1 | exactly what it is. But hopefully by the end of our talk today, you'll have a whole lot more of a sense of understanding of that. |
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