How Cognitive Dissonance Can Be a Sign of Healthy Growth [231]
Flying Free
Natalie Hoffman
5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 11 July 2023
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
Cognitive dissonance seems like it would be a “bad” thing, right? It can actually be a very good thing, and vital to our growth! Take a deep breath - it’s okay if you’re experiencing cognitive dissonance.
In this episode, I break down what cognitive dissonance really is, why women in emotionally abusive marriages may experience a lot of cognitive dissonance, how cognitive dissonance can help us create better, healthier thoughts, and I also share three fun illustrations of cognitive dissonance for all you listeners who love a good word picture. Ready? Let’s dive in.
Key Points From This Episode:
- Three definitions of cognitive dissonance.
- Three reasons why we may not want to change what we believe or what we do. “Fear of pain” is the key phase here.
- Some examples of cognitive dissonance that I see every day in the women within my private membership program, Flying Free.
- Why changing our thinking can be so, so good.
- Three illustrations of cognitive dissonance and how we can choose the thoughts we want to believe.
- Why I delete the hate mail I get immediately, sometimes without even reading it. That was a fun rabbit trail.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now. |
| 0:07.0 | And you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast, |
| 0:11.0 | a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden |
| 0:16.4 | emotional and spiritual abuse. |
| 0:21.6 | Welcome to episode 231 of the Fly and Free Podcast. In today's episode we're going to talk about |
| 0:29.8 | cognitive dissonance, what it is, how to identify when we are experiencing it, when is it a problem, |
| 0:38.2 | and when is it actually a good thing that is moving us forward in our lives. |
| 0:43.0 | Because I think that in our survivor circles, |
| 0:46.0 | we automatically assume that to have cognitive dissonance |
| 0:51.0 | means that there's something bad happening or that that's a negative thing. |
| 0:56.0 | So we're going to talk about how cognitive dissonance is actually a good and necessary thing |
| 1:01.9 | to our growth and development as human beings. |
| 1:05.8 | Now according to Oxford languages, |
| 1:08.2 | cognitive dissonance is the state of having |
| 1:11.1 | inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral |
| 1:17.4 | decisions and attitude change. |
| 1:20.6 | According to EverydayHealth.com, cognitive dissonance is the discomfort that you feel when your beliefs are inconsistent with one another or with your actions. |
| 1:32.0 | And SciCom.net says that cognitive dissonance is a mental conflict |
| 1:38.0 | that occurs when your beliefs don't line up with your actions. |
| 1:43.0 | So I would say that cognitive dissonance is when you have two opposing or contradictory beliefs or thoughts |
| 1:50.0 | simultaneously running at the same time. |
| 1:53.0 | Now, notice that when we have these two opposite or opposing beliefs at the same time, |
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