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I'm so happy today to welcome Melissa to the podcast. Welcome.

Hi. Thank you for having me.

I'm happy to have you. What is your question for me today, Melissa?

Okay, so I've been to therapy, so I know the jar. Good job. Yeah, all for that. So I don't know if this counts as like an imposter syndrome type feeling, but I often feel like I need to prove to others that my feelings are valid.

Okay.

This has come up a lot, especially this year.

I went through a divorce and from the outside everything looked like we had the perfect

marriage you people close to me knew everything that was going on and why I decided to file

for and I still stand by that decision and I'm happy. Good. And I hate that what's weighing me down is that some people think that I shouldn't have done it. They want more details that I am not willing to give. I'm playing the victim or manipulating. I'm really just trying to move forward, but I worry about how I

come across to other people. And I feel like I need to prove that I did the right thing for me.

And so I don't know how to move past that. Okay. So I feel like I need to prove that I did the right

thing because?

Because I want their support.

Specifically, it's my parents and siblings.

I have a lot of friends that have surrounded me and this is what you're doing. Great.

How can we help?

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