How Boundaries Impact Our Relationships

ShrinkChicks

Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Relationships

5 • 717 Ratings

🗓️ 21 July 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about all things boundaries and their effect on relationships. They discuss when others prefer the version of you that has less boundaries, why discomfort doesn’t always equal “danger” or “bad," resentment stemming from a lack of boundaries, guilt as a natural reaction to setting a boundary, getting pushback on boundaries and why it doesn’t mean you did something wrong, the acknowledgment that boundaries do affect the other person AND that they're still important to set, why change can be good and still disrupt the system, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ at The Therapy Group! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ShrinkChicks on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: Leesa: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leesa.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for 25% off a mattress, PLUS get an extra $50 off with promo code shrinkchicks, exclusive for our listeners Headspace: For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days Green Chef: Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Greenchef.com/50SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code 50SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout Pretty Litter: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy Quince: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Spot & Tango: Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order Greenlight: Start your risk-free Greenlight trial today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠greenlight.com/shrinkchicks

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0:00.0	This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.
0:04.8	Other people having a reaction doesn't mean that you shouldn't have set a boundary or that you're doing anything wrong.
0:11.5	And I think because our nervous system is so used to, you know, protecting us in some way when we see like, oh, someone's having this reaction.
0:19.5	Our nervous system gets this signal like, oh, that's having this reaction, our nervous system gets this signal,
0:21.0	like, oh, that's a threat.
0:22.2	And I should go into this protective mode.
0:25.6	And if the protective mode is, I need to fawn and take care of the other person, it's easy for
0:30.6	us to go back on our boundaries.
0:44.7	Yeah. Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks.
0:49.9	Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about well you.
0:51.0	I'm Emily Beerley.
0:52.2	And I'm Jennifer Chakin.
0:54.5	And we're both licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship experts. We're the owners and founders of the therapy group, a nationwide
0:59.7	psychotherapy practice with down-to-earth therapists just like us. Your session is starting,
1:05.2	so get ready to know yourself and grow yourself.
1:11.1	Hi, Jen. Hi, Jen.
1:12.4	Hi, Em.
1:13.4	You were, look, where were you in your head when I just?
1:16.0	I am not here today.
1:17.6	You were like, I didn't realize like it was starting right now.
1:21.5	Yeah, it is.
1:22.6	I'm ready.
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