Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon, welcome to shrink for the shy guy,

helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Aziz.

Hey, welcome to today's show. I'm Dr. Aziz, and today we have an exciting experience for you.

It's going to be an interview with an amazing, hilarious, intelligent, articulate guy

who has radically transformed my life in many people's lives with his strong line that he holds about how to stop BSing in your life

and start being honest. And that actually is going to bring me to a series of shows I'm doing

that starts with interviews with him and then several other authors and people and experts in honesty.

Like how do we be more real in our lives? How do we be more authentic,

more genuine, more honest? You know, this is something that I see across the board is if you're

shy, social anxiety, or you're lacking confidence, or you're holding yourself back in some way,

there are edges where you're afraid to be honest. You're afraid to be honest about what you're

really experiencing in your life. You're afraid to share that with if you're wanting to date women. You're afraid of just showing up and

being yourself. You think you have to hide and pretend and try to present an image to them. You might

be anxious at work because you're trying to posture or pretend like you're a certain way and you have

the imposter syndrome. You're afraid people are going to find out things about you and think that you're not all that and then maybe lose respect

for you or even, God forbid, fire you. You know, perhaps it's affecting you in your friendships. Like,

you don't really say what people and someone pisses you

off or doesn't show up or doesn't keep their commitments. And you say, oh, that's okay. That's fine.

You know, this leads you into the nice guy situation, which is where I spent many years and I had a

horrible lack of authenticity. I thought I was being authentic, but I wasn't being honest because I didn't

ever tell anyone when I was irritated or upset. I, for years, literally years, never told one person, friend, family

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