You're listening to The Girl Next Door Podcast. I'm Erica and I'm Kelsey. We're two former

next door neighbors and good friends who love a good chat and a good laugh. We're inviting

you to come on in, have a drink, and stay a while. Hey friend. Hey friend. So today we're going to talk

about a specific marriage topic. We've had other marriage episodes about weddings, communication in marriage, what happy couples do. But we're going to talk about a specific marriage topic. We've had other marriage episodes about

weddings, communication in marriage, what happy couples do. But we wanted to dive into the very

specific topic of division of labor in a partnership and how that kind of plays out in our

marriages and maybe some things we've learned over the years. So let's start with this. I think we both agree that

there is plenty of work to go around in marriage in raising children and running a household. And

there are all kinds of ways to go about that. So we also know this can be a very difficult subject

in relationships and cause tension and everyone has their own way of looking at it in their own

relationships. So we want to just acknowledge that here and make space for those differences.

There is no right or wrong as long as you're communicating. So that being said, are there some

things you feel have been kind of generally helpful to keep in mind when it comes to deciding

how to share the workload in your own marriage. Yes. So this first one

actually comes from Chris and that is don't keep score. Ooh, Christopher. I know just that's a

good one. Drop in some wisdom, isn't it? Such a good one. This was something we actually talked about

when we were recording our matrimony podcast. And I can't remember what topics we were talking about. But it seemed like it was something he said, you know, I've been thinking about this or just like reflecting on this and just you can't keep score in a relationship. And we just have talked about that more. And I just really keep that in mind.

I really do feel like love doesn't keep score. Just, you know, in terms of the division of labor,

I mean, within reason, you know, as long as it's not like.

But there's a difference between keeping score and feeling that things are fair and equitable.

Exactly.

Exactly.

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