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🗓️ 29 January 2019
⏱️ 24 minutes
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This is a picture of my sister Carmel and I having tea a few days after our mother’s funeral. She looks cheerful, doesn’t she? That’s because she was: although we both missed our mother intensely, and always will, we had done most of our grieving before she died, as we watched her tortured by Parkinson’s disease and severe dementia.
Carmel looks well, too. And she thought she was. Ovarian cancer plays that trick on women. The first symptoms tend to be annoying rather than alarming. A few weeks after this photograph was taken, I was reassuring her that Irritable Bowel Syndrome is a common response to bereavement – which it is. But that’s not what was wrong with her. On November 1, I was sitting next to her in the consulting room at Guy’s Hospital when the specialist confirmed that she had advanced ovarian cancer.
Carmel is my guest on today’s Holy Smoke podcast. Please listen to it. I guarantee that you’ll be surprised by what she has to say. And you will understand why I’m so proud of my sister.
Presented by Damian Thompson.
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0:00.0 | This is Spectator Radio and you're listening to Holy Smoke with Damian Thompson. |
0:09.5 | Welcome to Holy Smoke, the Spectator's Religion podcast. |
0:14.2 | I'm Damian Thompson. My guest today is a woman who's drawing on her Christian faith in order to face the challenge of a cancer diagnosis. |
0:34.9 | In fact, we're sitting in a flat next to Guy's Hospital where she's |
0:38.7 | just had a chemotherapy session. She's called Carmel Thompson, and yes, she is a relation. |
0:45.7 | She's my only sister. Carmel, this is a difficult subject for both of us to be discussing, |
0:51.6 | but especially for you, and yet there is something you'd like to say. |
0:57.5 | And that's why I'm delighted that you've agreed to appear on your brother's podcast. |
1:02.7 | Well, it is a privilege to be able to speak about this experience and actually to speak about it in a very positive way because I think I've astonished |
1:15.0 | myself as well as other people about how I've reacted to it. I think I always thought I was somebody |
1:23.2 | who wasn't going to get cancer. It might have been the heart disease from our family or something else, |
1:28.6 | but it just wasn't in my universe at all. |
1:32.6 | And coming in a year that was very fraught with difficulties |
1:37.4 | from a very traumatic relationship breakup |
1:42.9 | and the decline and then the loss of our dear mother in the summer, |
1:48.9 | you would have thought that was my lot for the year, really. And lo and behold, about a week |
1:54.0 | after the funeral, I began to get some symptoms, which turned out eventually to be a cancer diagnosis. So really, |
2:05.1 | they do come in threes, these things, as legend says. I was convinced that the symptoms were |
2:12.5 | of a gallbladder nature. I absolutely hadn't turned on to the idea of cancer. I thought my symptoms |
2:19.9 | added up to gallstones or some inflammation in that area. And then it was a rather slowish |
2:26.2 | investigation with my GP and taking myself off to a private London GP and then to fund my own scan because that's what I thought was going on. |
2:37.8 | And then some more test to do with possibly IBS. So Damien, you and I were both looking up |
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