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Happy Day. Hey all, it is us, your friendly neighborhood spider people.

My name is Colleen Wayne and I am Lost Farms and this is the Reed and is our special holiday mailback episode. Yay!

B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-B-Missed the end of the year.

And so we're taking a little bit of time off just a couple of weeks, and so that is the purpose of these mailbag

episodes to just answer a lot of your questions clear out the inbox a little bit and

really dive into y'all and y'all's y'all shit and everything y'all have going on so this is always fun. Yeah that you want to start? I can yeah let's see here.

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This letter comes from J. And J says, from Jay and Jay says here's the deal.

A while ago my best friend Nia told me

and our other best friend Brandy

that she asked her fiance to write down his experiences and thought processes regarding

choosing Nia at the beginning of their relationship.

Why?

For context, before Nia and her fiance became exclusive, Nia found out that he was sleeping with other people.

Not a huge deal other than the obvious lack of communication since they weren't exclusive,

but once she realized she caught feeling, she took a step back and let him know that she would be interested in

becoming exclusive if he wanted to but if not she would have to do what was best for her.

He ended up deciding to cut off his roster and committing to her and a year or so later they were engaged.

It's been almost eight months since they got engaged and Nia has realized she wants to know

more about the time in their relationship where he was sleeping around.

Why?

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